The Fight That Returns
Communication and Recurring Conflict
The subject changes, but you recognize the same turn in the conversation before it ends.
The Familiar Turn
One Reaches, the Other Leaves
It might start with a late reply, a household task, or a small change of plans. One partner presses for an answer because silence feels frightening. The other pulls back because every answer seems to make things worse. Soon both are responding to the pattern rather than the issue that started it.
Andrea helps you identify the point where a request becomes an accusation or a pause becomes abandonment in the other person's mind. Naming the pattern helps you find the moment where a different response can be discussed, without assigning equal blame for every interaction.
A Conflict Map
Follow One Conversation
01Identify the first moment either partner felt threatened.
02Notice the move to pursue or withdraw and its effect.
03Consider what a return to the conversation could sound like.
The same subject can mean two very different things to two people.
What You Practice
Repair Needs More Than a Better Phrase
In a couples session, you may bring in one recent disagreement and reconstruct the sequence. What did you hear? What did you assume? What did you need but not ask for? Andrea keeps the conversation specific enough that neither of you must defend your entire history in one sitting.
You can work on how to pause without disappearing, return after a conflict, and acknowledge an impact without making a promise you cannot keep. You can learn what each of you does when the familiar alarm goes off.
Choose the Time
Regular Sessions or More Room
Couples and Sex Therapy is $300 for 50 minutes. This rhythm gives you time to bring back what happened between appointments and pay attention to whether a repair attempt landed differently. It also allows for a conversation about intimacy if conflict has made closeness difficult.
An Extended Specialty Session is $395 for 90 minutes. More time can be useful when you need to work through a particular exchange without rushing its context. Andrea can discuss whether the extended format is suitable for both partners.
Meeting Together
A Place Outside the Argument
Andrea offers secure telehealth while you are located in Texas, Colorado, or Idaho. For couples care, both partners need a private place to participate. If joining from separate locations is necessary, discuss what is workable in the consultation.
You do not need a polished account of who started it. A recent example, including what each person hoped would happen, is enough to begin. The work makes room for what was missed in a fast conversation, not a verdict on which partner communicates correctly.
Questions
Frequently Asked Questions
Will Andrea decide which of us is right?
No. She helps you examine a specific interaction and what each person experienced within it.
Can a 90-minute session be for couples?
Yes. An Extended Specialty Session can be considered when more time is needed and the format fits your care plan.
Keep Exploring
Related Paths
The next conversation can have more room.
Start with a $100 consultation. The $100 is credited in full toward your first paid session or intensive.